Does anyone else turn into a mess right around book release time? I swear, Goodreads and Amazon have made us neurotic. Iâm always on Goodreads, hands trembling, waiting to see what awful thing has been said about my work now. Then my stomach is in knots because *GASP* not EVERYONE LOVES ME? WHAT IS THIS??
But Iâm here to tell youâyou donât need to stress over those bad reviews.
Let me tell you why.
First of all, you wrote a book. And not only did you write it, you edited it (hopefully), and published it. How many people do you know whoâve said, âIâve always wanted to write a book,â but they never have? Dozens, probably, maybe more. You wrote a book. You are a hero. You look at your book and be proud of what youâve accomplished. LOOK AT IT!
Secondly, writing is learning experience, not an exact science. Letâs compare it to school. We start out in kindergarten, not knowing all that much. But weâve got people to help us. Weâve got teachers and parents and our community. By the time weâre seniors in high school, we think we have this whole school thing figured out, only to find ourselves in college with no idea what the hell weâre doing. Being a writer isnât all that different. We all start out at the beginning, but we learn and we grow. Maybe your first book wasnât a bestseller, thatâs okay. Youâre learning. Youâre making mistakes, but more importantly, youâre learning how to correct them. (And remember college? We may have a degree, but sometimes we still donât know what the hell is happening!)
Truth is, you canât undo that book you published. Maybe if you self-published, you can edit again, change the cover, try to garner some better reviews, and you SHOULD, especially if the book was unedited. (Please donât publish unedited work. Thereâs nothing worse.) But if youâve grown as a writer, if youâve learned from the books youâve published, then you have nothing to stress over. I know. Itâs art. Itâs so hard to put something out there only to have people tear it apart. But the past is in the past, and that book, itâs now a part of your past. Youâre not the same writer you were when you faced that first blank page. Youâre not even the same person.
Did you learn something about grammar?
Did you learn how to foreshadow?
Did you learn how to subtly nuance a characterâs personality?
Did you learn not to split infinitives?
If you learned, then you are doing it right.
There will always be people who donât like your work, and thatâs okay. Itâs hard to accept, but itâs okay. When you sit down at your computer to write, are you thinking about those people who donât like your work? No. Youâre thinking about how great it is to write. How it feels to accomplish something. Youâre remembering that fluttering in your stomach when you reach that really important scene. Youâre finding your release. And maybe, just maybe, youâre a little scared, because youâre really putting yourself out there this time. Youâre really taking chances. Youâre writing about something that matters to YOU.
So let those bad reviews roll off your back and keep going, soldier. Thereâs still books inside of you and many more lessons to learn.